If you are scared to tell your parents you are pregnant, you’re not alone. Here are things to consider when you are in that situation:
1. Do you know for sure that you are pregnant?
If not, you can take a home pregnancy test or schedule an appointment with Wellspring to make sure you are. Wellspring can also provide support as you process that information and provide you with information regarding your options. It can be scary to be in that situation and we can provide non-judgmental support as you make a plan for telling your parents and involving them in the next steps.
2. If possible, tell them in person.
So much of our communication happens when we see non-verbal cues like a smile or look of understanding. It may be tempting to text your parents, but this is one conversation to have in person or over the phone if you are at college and can’t make it home.
3. Think about how you are going to tell your parents.
Pick a time where you can have an unhurried conversation with them. If need be, rehearse with a trusted friend or another adult. Anticipate what your parents’ questions might be and if possible, have answers. Things your parents might ask: “Are you moving home?” Is the father of the baby involved?”, or “How can I help?”
4. Give your parents time to absorb the news.
Remember they may experience all the emotions you did when you found out you were pregnant. Give them time to work through their thoughts and emotions at their own pace. If need be, pause the conversation and set up another time to talk to your parents.
5. Most parents will eventually support you as you continue the pregnancy.
A parent’s love for their child is very strong and can withstand a lot of pressure. And while this may be unexpected news for both you and your parents, it is also an opportunity to show each other kindness and work together to help you be the best parent you can be.
Be sure to contact us if you would like to schedule an appointment for a free pregnancy test or to talk with one of our trained advocates.